EQ Blog Category: Books

2010 03/24

Overwhelm – an Emotion?

‘Overwhelm’ – an Emotion? March 24, 2010

I’ve been reading Tara Hunt’s “The Whuffie Factor” about online social capital and I’m feeling quite overwhelmed by it all. Of course, it all makes perfect sense to me as I’ve worked very hard to develop a ‘good’ reputation for myself as an ambassador for emotional intelligence and as a person who delivers on promises, etc. I know how quickly and easily that reputation is damaged for example, when I make a mistake like coming on too strong, being late for a conference talk, or misreading my audience (yes, unfortunately these things have happened! ;-) I understand social capital and it follows that it is the same online. It’s really how people (hopefully in your target market) ‘feel’ about you and being intentional about that – how do you want people to feel about you? You get a ‘rep’ online as well as in real life. But for a baby boomer like me (tail end ;-) it’s more difficult to wrap my mind around all the technical aspects of building social capital and I feel a bit anxious about it all. There are the different social media websites that must all be updated and yes I know about programs like TweetDeck, etc., but still, you have to be on top of these things and I don’t know if I’m up for the challenge. I guess I’ll have to be. Is ‘overwhelm’ an emotion? I don’t think so. I think we use it to mean ‘anxious’, ‘fearful’, or other emotion that prevents or limits our effectiveness in the required task – in this case, the required task is to get on it and learn about all these various forms of social media and get busy writing and staying on top of it all and not let ‘overwhelm’ get in the way.

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2009 03/10

Book Review, March 10, 2009

Finding Your Way Home: a soul survival kit – tools for discovering your emotional and spiritual power by Melody Beattie While this book has a high foo foo factor and refers to God a lot (this can also be a God of your understanding), there is a lot of great stuff here. I have trouble believing in paranormal phenomena I have not experienced, but I’m happy to read about them. I do strongly believe in the premise of the book that we are all wanting to find our way home. There are a lot of excellent and powerful questions in this book like, what if I don’t have a home? And what is spirit. There are also a lot of activities designed to help you to explore these questions, like, learning to consciously recognize fear. The details of which are beyond the scope of this book report ;-)

This book comes to me by way of exploring other models of understanding human behaviour. One that I’m currently exploring is the 12 Step Model of Alcoholics Anonymous and Melody Beattie is one writer that has a connection to the concepts related to the 12 Steps. I’m fascinated that this model created in 1939 by two guys is so powerful; has helped so many people world wide and is still in use today pretty much in its original form. And that it is all about emotion! Wow, I may really be on to something ;-)

If any of you have knowledge or experience with the 12 Steps, please write me, I’m fascinated to learn more.

Let me know what you’re reading and if you’d like to send me a ‘brief’ book report and it’s related to EI/EQ, I’ll post in in the April EQ Update. Send it to david@eitrainingcompany.com

Take care, my friends, until next time!

Let me know what you think about the EQ Update. Email me at david@eitrainingcompany.com

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Book Review, March 10, 2009

How We Choose to Be Happy: The 9 Choices of Extremely Happy People–Their Secrets, Their Stories

by Rick Foster and Greg Hicks I love this book! I know, you’ve heard that before, but this book, a gift from a wonderful Bay Area coach, Anke Thiele, is unique in that the authors travelled around looking for the happiest people they could find and telling their stories. In the process of their research and from analyzing the data they created a model, “The 9 Choices of Extremely Happy People” which, if you are in the people development business are absolutely essential questions for your clients. I don’t have time to tell you all the 9 questions, so you’ll just have to get the book!

Let me know what you’re reading and if you’d like to send me a ‘brief’ book report and it’s related to EI/EQ, I’ll post in in the April EQ Update. Send it to david@eitrainingcompany.com

Take care, my friends, until next time!

Let me know what you think about the EQ Update. Email me at david@eitrainingcompany.com

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2008 09/10

Book Review September 10, 2008

“The Brain that Changes Itself: stories of personal triumph from the frontiers of brain science”, Norman Doige, MD 2007

This book is an extremely readable book about some very technical stuff and provides a great deal of hope for people who suffer the effects of stroke, learning disabilities, aging and other factors that affect brain functioning. The book tells the compelling stories of researchers and people affected by various deletarious influences and is absolutely fascinating. Highly recommended if you work in the area of individual or organizational development – which I know most of you do! ;-)

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