It’s fascinating to think about such topics as Facial Aging, Facial Attractiveness, Facial Deception and The Face in Health and Disease among many other topics available here on the website. There is a lot to this website, click around and you’ll find some really interesting things like the sale of the Facial Action Coding System Manual (FACS)  created by Paul Ekman and Joseph Hager and Wallace Friesen.

Also take a look at the Library, where you’ll find reference materials, which despite the fact that the site hasn’t been updated in a long time – it looks it, still remain relevant works today.

Do you have some favourite references regarding emotions and the face or body language? What are they? Comment below.

Once again, I have chosen to review a local Calgary author I met at the Calgary chapter of the Canadian Association of Professional Speakers. Her name is Judy Arnall and her book is entitled, “Discipline Without Distress” (3rd Edition, 2010) and can best be described as an emotionally intelligent parenting book. The subtitle is “135 tools for raising caring, responsible children without time-out, spanking, punishment, or bribery.” Without bribery? How is that possible? ;-)

But seriously, I really like the focus on how the parent is feeling and how the child is feeling. This consistent theme throughout the book makes it, as I said, an emotionally intelligent parenting book. The five keys of discipline, according to Judy are:

• Teach not hurt.
• Stay with your “no” and honour your word.
• Look for the need or feeling (NOF) behind the behaviour.
• Separate your anger from your discipline.
• Be the person you want them to be.

Judy goes into why we have come to believe what many of us believe about discipline and then goes on to make a very compelling case for changing our traditional (irrational) beliefs for more contemporary (rational) beliefs about how to discipline children.

Judy claims we can help our children gain:

• Strong communication skills
• Healthy self-esteem, confidence, and greater emotional intelligence
• Assertiveness, empathy, problem-solving, and anger management skills
• a respectful, loving connection with us as parents.

I highly recommend this book to all parents and would be parents. Here’s to ending, as Judy says, “resentment, frustration, anger, tears, and defiance and moving to a more loving, respectful, teaching and fun connection with our children.” Check out Judy’s website at http://professionalparenting.ca/

I just love a good quotation, don’t you? ;-) Please comment and leave me one of your favourites.

The quotation, as you may re-call is, “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

Download a PDF of the Williamson poster with the Williamson quote.

What do you think? Please feel free to comment.

It explores such key concepts as the nature of emotions, naming and describing emotions, emotional triggers, validation, emotion regulation. It is chock full of critical ideas in developing EQ skills – from a therapeutic point of view.

Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) is described as “an eclectic mix of cognitive behavioral techniques, skills training, and Buddhist wisdom.” This made me smile and think – aren’t there a lot of programs and approaches that can be described this way? ;-)

Check out this book, let me know what you think, and send me your nominations for our monthly book review.

What do you think? Do you think this model might be useful for you as you help your clients change and for your clients to understand what they must go through if they are to be successful in making the changes they want to make? Let me know.

What do you think? Have you read it? Any suggestions for books or want to send in a review of your own? Your reviews are always welcome – just make them brief and to the point and we’ll include it in an upcoming EQ2G0.

Let me know what you think of this resource – oh, and send me your suggestions for future websites of the month.