Kim and David talk in this sixteenth and final episode about Well-being. The Well-being indicator is made up of Self-Regard, Optimism, Interpersonal Relationships and Self-Actualization.
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Partial Show notes
0:00 Introduction, by David
0:30 David: The EQ Indicator is part of the EQ-i 2.0 and it’s an indication of how things are going in one’s life and work. But what is well-being?
1:15 Kim: It’s not a straight forward concept. It’s not just being happy, for example… People want to be happier, and that’s a tall order… well-being is partly the ability to recognize what is working, and what is good in one’s life and being curious and attentive to how that has come to be. So self-awareness is important…
3:00 David: Yes, life is full of pain. Happy moments and painful moments are transitory – when we’re talking about well-being, we’re talking about a baseline or an aggregate level of happiness or satisfaction… there is the Dr. Phil question, “how is that working for you?”…
5:30 Kim: We’re not just talking about self-esteem either. Self-regard can be seen as a joining of recognition of one’s existing capacities with the recognition of the possibilities for growth. What I really like about the Well-being Indicator is it’s an inter-weaving of multiple competencies. It invites new users who are taking the assessment and starting to look at EI to really see how competencies interrelate. Self-Regard, Optimism, Interpersonal Relationships and Self-Actualization connect and relate to each other – they’re woven together.
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7:30 David: I think the fact that Interpersonal Relationships is a critical part of well-being is an important learning… humans are designed as social beings, with a need for connection and dialogue… self-actualization is also huge…
10:20 Kim: Yes, well, we’ve both had clients that had cool jobs, as seen from the outside, but they were not fulfilled by their job… people need to be able adjust course in their lives…
12:00 David: And this can dramatically affect well-being. Self-regard can be at play here: do we have the sense that we deserve well-being.
13:20 Kim: Some research shows that large numbers of people are not satisfied by their work. That’s a frightening result… this is where optimism comes in.
14:20 David: When we’re young, we sometimes have jobs that have less satisfaction. And with optimism, we can see that we’re building toward something better. When we focus less on what is bad, and how things are developing, then we have more well-being. The practice of optimism is gratitude… These four competencies come from self-perception and the interpersonal and stress management, which is fascinating.
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16:30 Kim: In many ways, this is about our capacity to change our lenses, to change our frames. We develop these little internal cues that allow us to shift perspective. This goes a long way to adapting and adjusting and developing resilience. The EQ-i 2.0 is the most comprehensive assessment tool that I know of that allows people to develop resilience.
18:30 David: Resilience, in this sense, is our ability to maintain well-being; to get back to well-being. When life throws you a curve ball, what does it take to come back to a sense of satisfaction and well-being? … [laughs] If I just had a bigger screen, I’d be happy.
21:20 Kim: [laughs] Our perspective is, create your own screen!
22:00 David: One of the exercises we do in training is to examine our different frames and our different beliefs. Then we examine them. Many of the beliefs we have are utterly made up…
23:30 Kim: Do our beliefs fuel us? Are they breaks? Do they block us? Are they serving me well?
23:50 David: And we don’t want to simplify this. For people who are struggling with their well-being, this is complicated and we’re not suggesting that there’s a simple fix. But please reach out.
25:30 Kim: Well-being is a path. And we’re on our own path through life. There’s no endpoint to this journey, and there is nothing simple about this. We’re working on our EI and we’re all works in progress. This model allows us to understand and shift our emotional operating system… and just know that we have all have the power to shift where we’re at…
26:45 David: If you want to have a greater sense of happiness and well-being, work on the four competencies in the Well-being Indicator… get in touch!
29:00 Kim: Yes, please feel welcome to get in touch with us! By for now.